When you are trying to mend your broken relationship, there are some things that are good to do but there are other things that aren’t. Getting your ex back is a really awkward process, if you get it right then great, but there is every chance that things can go really wrong.
Although it is tempting, you must not repeatedly ring and text your ex. This is a big mistake, but many people make it. They do things like this out of sheer desperation to speak with their ex, their desperation only gets worse if they get no response.
Sadly if you are desperate then your ex will quickly spot this, and it will generally just drive them further away from you. A needy person is not attractive at all, and when you keep pestering your ex, this is how you will come across.
An action that you should take is to give your ex some time to breathe. So basically for a few weeks you should have no contact whatsoever. This will allow you both to have a good think about things and calm down.
Eventually a time will come when you need to contact your ex to arrange to meet up. Simply suggest a friendly catch-up, nothing to heavy or pushy. It’s crucial that you’re patient and don’t expect to get your ex back straight away. Discussing the idea of getting back together will probably take several meetings to come up.
Avoiding arguments is also important, you do not want to make things worse. So if you feel like your ex isn’t ready to try things again yet, don’t push it, just keep your spirits up and be patient.
It goes without saying that your relationship will be very fragile now as you have just split up, and any arguments or bad feelings will just make it worse. Bear in mind that if you end up arguing, you will probably ruin your chances of getting them back so bite your lip if you are ever tempted to challenge them on something they say.